this IS very EIGHT of SWORDS: we all NEED boundaries, and most people resist because they perceive it in a negative way but boundaries are necessary and while they can be restrictive they also protect you. without boundaries people would simply drive all over the road mangling each other unneccesarily. which is what some do emotionally already. so take off that blindfold you're wearing and think about limitations that work for and protect you. and once they're in place STOP letting people over-step and take advantage of you........and this really applies to your kids as well. the whole not my baby reaction doesn't help, yes your baby cause they've had no limitations and now they're a spoiled brat (DAMN you Dr Spock!) so yank em up short and make them into the person you want them to be (not your buddy, time for that when they're an adult) this also goes for romantic relationships people who don't respect you and your boundaries do NOT change, it will NEVER get better. so respect yourself and love yourself enough to make the hard decisions, you'll not regret self love and self respect.............this also applies to mooch friends and relatives. you did not force them to get drunk call out of work and loose their job and have no obligation to keep saving them, mayhaps tough love is in order. (and anyone who uses their kids to guilt you is a piece of crap!) instead of "seeing" boundaries as a negative visualize them as white light surrounding yu in a bubble of love and safety or a fence covered in the most lovely morning glories. it really is all about perception!
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